If you ever had sex in a hotel room
and thought, "Well, that was better than it usually is," you're not
the only one.
Turns out there are chemical
responses that occur in our brains when we have sex in a hotel bed, that don't
necessarily happen in our personal bedrooms, says Ian Kerner, a licensed
psychotherapist, sex counselor and best-selling author of "She Comes
First" and "Passionista:
The Empowered Woman's Guide To Pleasuring A
Man."
When a couple engages in sexual acts
in a hotel room, versus the bedroom, "the novelty of the hotel room is
going to stimulate dopamine transmission in the brain, which pays a big role in
arousal and sexual excitement," Kerner told HuffPost.
Hotels are an indulgence:
Because hotels are often designed to
be luxurious and sensual -- there's good lighting, candles, expensive
sheets, a big bed, it's designed to appeal to the five senses -- "there's
a psychological mindset when people check into a hotel that they can pamper
themselves.
There’s something a little luxurious, languorous, sumptuous about a
hotel that lends itself to feeling sexual."
Another factor Kerner points out is
that "for sexual arousal to occur, especially in women, parts of the
brain associated with anxiety and stress need to turn off," he said.
"So I often advise couples to turn their bedroom into a love nest that’s
free from distractions. I think a hotel -- as a sort of generic luxury --
automatically helps people tune out the anxiety. There aren’t photos of kids,
bills that need to be paid, books that need to be read; you’re in a place out
of time, out of your life. And the shutting down or the pushing away of that
anxiety, creating a boundary of anxiety and stressors of everyday life, is
going to contribute to sexual arousal."
And, perhaps best of all, you don't
have to go very far:
You don't really have to be on
vacation to reap the benefits. In perhaps the best argument for taking more
staycations, Kerner says hotels inherently spice things up, just by being
different than the norm.
"Sometimes sex therapists often
advise patients to switch up their sex scripts and try having sex in different
positions, or try having sex in different rooms," Kerner said. "So
inherently, going to a hotel is going to provide a break in the routine that’s
also going to be stimulating”.
Source: Huffingtonpost
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