In most cases, a woman wants to look
attractive to men in hopes that she will find the one guy who will love and
cherish her — and she him. If you are in this category and can’t seem to get
the job done, you’re not alone.
You may be thinking you’re just not
pretty enough. If that’s the case, then it will surprise you to read this
comment made by a Miss America contestant when she was asked, “How do you deal
with all the guys who want to take you out?” She replied. “I haven’t had a guy
ask me on a date for ages. And I don’t know why. I would love to go out.”
Being attractive to men is much more
than having a pretty face. Apparently, men are looking for more. To test this
theory, we did a quick survey, online and in personal interviews, asking men
what they consider attractive in women. Here are the six top characteristics
that were mentioned — one way or another — by nearly all who were surveyed.
These traits are what respondents found attractive in women:
1. Self-confident
She knows who she is. She doesn’t
need anyone else to define her. She’s content to be herself. She has values and
standards and isn’t afraid to stick by them. She’s not driven by every wind and
wave of popular culture. She’s grounded in knowing what she stands for and
doesn’t apologize for it to anyone. She has a strong faith in God. She’s not
arrogant about it, just quietly remains true to her beliefs and allows others
to do the same. She is more concerned about others, including her boyfriend,
than herself. One man, describing the woman he married, said, “Her moral
‘backbone’ and solid values were a hit with me.” Being confident in who you are
and having your values in place can free you up to care about others.
2. Adventuresome and fun
She’s game for an adventure which
makes her fun to be with. She isn’t afraid to try new things, go new places and
eat new foods. She doesn’t hesitate to learn new things that we both find
challenging and interesting. For example, a pre-med student said of his fiancé,
“She was even willing to board a hot air balloon without knowing I was going to
propose to her in midair.” (Click here to see this romantic event.) Yes, men
enjoy being with women who are willing to try new adventures.
3. Feminine and pretty
She’s not obsessed over her looks.
She fixes herself up to look nice and is satisfied. When I’m with her I feel
like a real man. She doesn’t have a need to be masculine, though she is strong
and extremely capable. Her femininity complements my masculinity. She can look
adorable in five-inch heels one minute and equally charming in jogging shoes
the next. She can wear a dress with a swirly skirt as comfortably as she wears
everyday jeans. She’s not inclined to use gutter talk. She knows how to smile
and uses it often. She simply knows how to be a lady.
4. Smart
She has prepared herself
intellectually — educated but not boastful about it. When we can talk freely
about what’s going on in the world, with both of us being equally involved in
the conversation, that’s a very good thing. It’s not that she has to know about
everything; it’s that she wants to learn and finds learning rewarding. That’s
attractive.
5. Approachable and friendly
She gives me a glance when she sees
me staring at her, encouraging me with a slight flirtatious look. One man who
fell hook-line-and-sinker said, “Her down-to-earth personality made it
impossible for me to resist.” Another husband said, “She laughed at my jokes.
She thought I was hilarious, and that stroked my ego. It made me want to be
with her.” Maybe our Miss America contestant — mentioned earlier — made guys
feel that she was unapproachable — too good for them. Nobody wants to be
rejected, so guys generally won’t risk it. Men need to feel invited by your
welcoming look and gestures. In other words, being friendly is attractive to
guys.
6. Wants to be a mother
She says it by the way she interacts
with children. She makes it clear that she’s looking forward to having kids of
her own. She actually says the words, “I want to be a mother.” Several men
stated that this quality was important to them because they wanted to be
fathers someday. A man can’t have a family without a wife who shares that same
desire, so he finds this an attractive trait.
As evidenced in these comments, all
is enhanced by how a guy feels about himself when he’s with you. When you help
him feel good about himself, he cannot help but be attracted to you. As you
read what men are looking for in women, pick one quality that you could improve
upon and start working on it. Step by step, you can become the attractive woman
you’ve always wanted to be.
Source: Ghanavibes
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